Mindset Matters - Episode #172 - Pleasure vs. Happiness: Why You Might Be Chasing the Wrong One

In this episode, Patrick and Steffany explore a thought-provoking question: Are we truly happy, or are we just chasing pleasure? While many people confuse the two, they explain how happiness is an internal, long-term state, while pleasure is a short-lived external high that can leave us feeling empty once it fades.

Patrick and Steffany discuss how modern society—especially social media—has amplified the addiction to pleasure through instant gratification. Platforms like Instagram and TikTok provide constant dopamine hits, often tricking us into believing we're happy when, in reality, we're just on an emotional rollercoaster. They highlight the science behind it: pleasure is fueled by dopamine, while true happiness comes from serotonin. Ironically, excessive dopamine suppresses serotonin, making lasting happiness harder to attain.

Through personal reflections and real-world examples, they unpack how many of us unconsciously seek pleasure in shopping, binge-watching, or even the pursuit of external validation. They also touch on how industries—like social media, gambling, and even retail—are designed to keep us hooked on pleasure.

Steffany shares insights from working with athletes, noting how social media "fasts" help competitors stay present and avoid the distractions of external validation. The episode also explores the importance of purpose, relationships, and self-awareness in cultivating happiness.

The key takeaway? Pleasure is easy, but happiness is earned. By prioritizing deep connections, personal growth, and meaningful contributions, we can shift from seeking fleeting pleasure to cultivating lasting happiness.

Tune in for a powerful conversation that challenges us to reflect on what truly makes us happy.