The Everyday Millionaire

Mindset Matters - Episode #173 - The Psychology of Meaning: Why Hope & Purpose Matter

In this episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany dive deep into the psychology of meaning and how our present influences both our past and future. Drawing on insights from renowned psychologists Dr. Roy Baumeister and Dr. Kathleen Vohs, they explore the idea that present events derive meaning from their connection to future outcomes.
The conversation touches on the growing disconnection in society and how an uncertain future impacts our sense of purpose. With rising rates of depression, suicide, and social isolation, many people are struggling to find meaning in a world that feels increasingly divided. Patrick and Steffany examine the shift from community-based happiness to individual pleasure-seeking and its effect on overall well-being.
They also discuss the impact of global and personal tragedies, including the recent loss in the figure skating community, and how grief is deeply tied to meaning. Steffany shares her perspective on grief as "stuck love" and emphasizes the importance of processing emotions, reconnecting with purpose, and moving forward with intention.
In a time of rapid change, the couple highlights the necessity of cultivating hope, building community, and embracing conversations that inspire growth. Patrick also shares his excitement about his new role with McKay CEO Forums, a platform dedicated to fostering meaningful connections among business leaders.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to navigate uncertainty, reclaim their sense of purpose, and build a meaningful future despite life's challenges.

TEDM – Tommy Mello – In it to Win It, Together (Episode 213)

Tommy Mello is the CEO of A1 Garage Door Service, a $200M company that spans across more than 20 US states. He is the host of The Mello Millionaire podcast and the Home Service Expert podcast. Additionally, he holds ownership, partnership, or investment positions in 14 other ventures, spanning from Christmas lights to real estate to mobile apps.
Tommy is a best-selling author and the founder of Home Service Freedom, a program that trains thousands of home service professionals every year. Tommy is dedicated to mentoring young entrepreneurs and gaining insights from other business experts and CEOs to continually enhance and expand his skills, both in the business realm and beyond.
Listen in to this episode as Tommy shares his journey from a hustle culture to entrepreneurial leadership. He describes how his vision evolved and the qualities and tools he adopted for exponential growth. Tommy and Patrick discuss habits vs. discipline, vanity, living a values-based life and the very personal reasons Tommy continues to strive for growth, physical excellence and a billion-dollar company. At the heart of it all is Tommy’s desire for those around him to thrive alongside.

Mindset Matters - Episode #172 - Pleasure vs. Happiness: Why You Might Be Chasing the Wrong One

In this episode, Patrick and Steffany explore a thought-provoking question: Are we truly happy, or are we just chasing pleasure? While many people confuse the two, they explain how happiness is an internal, long-term state, while pleasure is a short-lived external high that can leave us feeling empty once it fades.
Patrick and Steffany discuss how modern society—especially social media—has amplified the addiction to pleasure through instant gratification. Platforms like Instagram and TikTok provide constant dopamine hits, often tricking us into believing we're happy when, in reality, we're just on an emotional rollercoaster. They highlight the science behind it: pleasure is fueled by dopamine, while true happiness comes from serotonin. Ironically, excessive dopamine suppresses serotonin, making lasting happiness harder to attain.
Through personal reflections and real-world examples, they unpack how many of us unconsciously seek pleasure in shopping, binge-watching, or even the pursuit of external validation. They also touch on how industries—like social media, gambling, and even retail—are designed to keep us hooked on pleasure.
Steffany shares insights from working with athletes, noting how social media "fasts" help competitors stay present and avoid the distractions of external validation. The episode also explores the importance of purpose, relationships, and self-awareness in cultivating happiness.
The key takeaway? Pleasure is easy, but happiness is earned. By prioritizing deep connections, personal growth, and meaningful contributions, we can shift from seeking fleeting pleasure to cultivating lasting happiness.
Tune in for a powerful conversation that challenges us to reflect on what truly makes us happy.

Mindset Matters - Episode #171 - Is Life Even Fair?

In this episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany dive into the loaded concept of fairness. They unpack how “fair” is often used in political, business, and personal conversations, yet its meaning is highly subjective.
Patrick kicks off the discussion with a provocative example: a financial agreement where one party lends money at an agreed interest rate, only to later feel shortchanged when the borrower makes a significant profit. The scenario highlights how fairness can shift depending on perspective, emotions, and unforeseen outcomes.
The hosts explore the distinction between fairness, evenness, and merit. Steffany points out how fairness is often misinterpreted, such as in sports when coaches say they will distribute ice time fairly—but not necessarily equally. Similarly, in society, politicians use the word to push an agenda, but are they really advocating fairness or simply playing with language to appeal to emotions?
They also touch on how fairness—or the lack of it—creates victim mentalities. If fairness is a core value, then feeling deprived or overlooked can be a frequent and frustrating experience. Instead, Steffany suggests shifting the focus from fairness to possibility, embracing personal responsibility rather than waiting for an even playing field.
The episode ties fairness back to relationships, work, and personal growth, urging listeners to examine where they feel things are “unfair” and whether assumptions, miscommunications, or unspoken expectations are at play. Ultimately, Patrick and Steffany challenge listeners to redefine fairness for themselves and recognize how it shapes their mindset, decisions, and sense of fulfillment.
Is life truly fair? Or is it about agreements, perception, and perspective? Tune in and decide for yourself.

TEDM – Shaahin Cheyene – Uncompromising Excellence (Episode 212)

In this episode, Shaahin delves into various aspects of entrepreneurship and the qualities he observes and values to achieve real wealth and success. Drawing from his own experiences, he shares stories of overcoming societal limitations to build stability and success. Shaahin talks about the importance of building multiple streams of income and the courses he offers to help people create a business with Amazon that brings real value to the consumer and generates extraordinary revenue by understanding the long game. But more importantly, you need to show up to the game! Shaahin defines success as a personal measure, not one based on comparison with others, and advocates for systems over goals and the power of self-knowledge in discipline. Shaahin and Patrick discuss the importance of knowing yourself—your strengths, weaknesses, and the fabric of who you are to make informed decisions and lead a fulfilling life.

Mindset Matters - Episode #170 - Trust After Forgiveness: Is It Possible?

In this heartfelt episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany Francey dive deep into the themes of trust, forgiveness, and self-responsibility. Opening with the timeless quote, “To err is human, to forgive divine,” they explore what it means to forgive when trust has been broken and how to rebuild relationships through the art of healing.
Patrick shares a powerful parable of a master who mends a broken clay pot with golden resin, symbolizing how forgiveness is the glue that binds us together when trust shatters. This concept aligns with the Japanese art of Kintsugi, where cracks in pottery are repaired with gold, creating something more beautiful and meaningful than before. Through this lens, Patrick and Steffany discuss how the scars of broken trust can carry valuable lessons while still leaving their mark.
The conversation touches on the nuances of trust—whether broken intentionally, unintentionally, or due to misunderstandings. Steffany introduces the "Assumption of Trust," an exercise that challenges listeners to examine their own trustworthiness and values. They reflect on real-life scenarios, from personal relationships to business dynamics, emphasizing the need for clear communication and self-awareness to prevent misunderstandings and unmet expectations.
Forgiveness, they argue, is not about forgetting or excusing harm but about releasing the emotional weight we carry. Through poignant anecdotes, including stories of parents forgiving unimaginable losses, they underscore the importance of forgiveness as a gift we give ourselves to reclaim peace and healing.
The episode closes with a reminder: forgiveness begins within. Whether seeking it for others or granting it to ourselves, letting go of resentment is essential for emotional freedom and well-being. Trust and forgiveness are not just actions—they are ongoing practices rooted in our values and choices.

Mindset Matters - Episode #169 - The Resilience Blueprint: Five Traits to Become Unstoppable

In this engaging episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany explore the profound connection between language, resilience, and personal growth. The conversation begins with the intriguing word "abracadabra," which they reveal is derived from Hebrew, meaning "as I speak, so I create." This sparks a thoughtful dialogue on how words shape our reality, serve as our "wardrobe" to the world, and influence the outcomes we manifest.
The hosts shift focus to the theme of resilience—a critical quality for thriving amidst life’s challenges. Steffany shares her expertise in emotional resilience, distinguishing it from mental toughness, and emphasizes its application across various areas of life, including physical, relational, financial, and spiritual domains. Patrick highlights the importance of adaptability, self-awareness, purpose, and a strong support system as foundational elements of resilience.
The duo dives deeper into how adversity plays a vital role in building empathy and compassion. They discuss how a lack of early challenges can hinder emotional growth and contrast it with the profound lessons learned through overcoming hardships. Steffany shares insights from her coaching experience, including her method of "manufacturing adversity" to prepare athletes for real-world challenges.
The episode also touches on resilience in community settings, referencing recent wildfires in California. The discussion underscores the importance of leaning on support systems and the courage it takes to ask for help during trying times. The hosts advocate for embracing adversity as a muscle that needs training, much like physical fitness, to foster emotional strength and self-reliance.
Ending on a positive note, Steffany reminds listeners to prepare for the worst, expect the best, and always leave room for magic. This episode is a powerful reminder that resilience, like the magic of words, can transform lives when nurtured with intention and purpose.

TEDM – Simon Severino – Strategy Sprints: Design Your Desirable Future (Episode 211)

Simon Severino has created +2B in additional sales for his clients over the last 21 years. As an advisor who became CEO, he had to learn the importance of working ON the business more than IN it.
Now, he shares his proven templates with high-ticket entrepreneurs. They reclaim 14 hours per week using the Strategy Sprints™ Method and enjoy sales that soar. Simon is the author of “Strategy Sprints”, Podcast Host Ranking Top 2.5%, a TEDx speaker, Forbes contributor and Triathlete. He has appeared on over 1300 podcasts which reflects his commitment to sharing knowledge with a broad audience.
When he is not supercharging sales, you’ll find him swimming, biking, running and tricking his 3 kids into outdoor activities so they can’t escape his annoying shrinky questions.
In this episode Simon shares his superpower and how it helps business owners all over the world get clear and focused to double their revenues in 90 days. Simon recounts his journey from employee to entrepreneur, getting the Strategy Sprints Method from brain to paper, scaling his own business, and leveraging his profits. Simon and Patrick discuss current trends in B2B sales and aligning offerings with market realities. Simon offers guidance around savings rates and allocating profits into wealth-building assets along with his approach to investing and risk mitigation with a focus on long-term secular trends. He emphasizes tuning out noise and identifying opportunities aligned with these trends. Simon shares a practical takeaway for business owners using their “Daily Flow” tool to maintain focus and productivity.
This episode offers actionable insights for business owners, entrepreneurs, and investors seeking to optimize their strategies, build resilience, and capitalize on long-term opportunities.

Mindset Matters - Episode #168 - Progress: The Hidden Key to Happiness and Fulfillment

In this engaging episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany dive deep into the essence of progress and its connection to happiness, fulfillment, and purpose. They kick things off with a candid moment, reflecting on how even small conflicts can lead to growth when addressed constructively. Their conversation highlights that happiness isn't a destination but a byproduct of moving forward and aligning with your values.
Central to their discussion is the idea that progress fuels our sense of satisfaction and purpose. Drawing on stories like Alexander the Great’s Gordian knot and insights from personal and professional experiences, they emphasize that progress often requires creative thinking, bold action, and the courage to challenge norms. For Patrick, progress is more than hitting financial targets—it’s about measuring growth across the seven areas of life: vocation, physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and beyond.
Steffany adds a nuanced perspective by linking progress to measurable milestones, whether in personal goals or professional endeavors. From athletic training to building businesses, she underscores the importance of setting benchmarks to track growth. Progress, she notes, isn’t about grand leaps; even small, consistent steps can lead to profound fulfillment.
The pair also explore how stagnation breeds dissatisfaction and frustration, a sentiment many felt during recent years of societal and personal upheaval. They encourage listeners to examine where they feel stuck and identify actionable steps to regain momentum. Their advice: embrace challenges as opportunities to innovate, surround yourself with the right support, and maintain clarity on your core values.
As the episode wraps up, Patrick and Steffany introduce concepts from their upcoming free master classes, such as the Circle of Support and the Values Matrix. They leave listeners with a powerful takeaway: progress isn’t just a value—it’s a mindset that drives happiness, purpose, and success.

Mindset Matters - Episode #167 - Come Alive in 2025: Aligning Values, Building Resilience

In this episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany explore the theme “Come Alive in 2025,” reflecting on the importance of living with intention and aligning with one’s core values as the new year begins. They revisit the transformative concept “clarity equals velocity” from 2024, emphasizing how clarity can propel growth in personal and professional relationships.
The episode delves into the role of values in decision-making, highlighting how compromising one’s core values often leads to dissatisfaction and misalignment. Patrick and Steffany discuss the dangers of living according to “shoulds” or societal expectations, which can erode authenticity and strain relationships. They urge listeners to identify their own values and live in integrity, noting that resilience and fulfillment stem from honoring what truly matters to you.
A significant part of the conversation focuses on the seven pillars of life: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, vocational, and relational fitness. The duo distinguishes between fitness—the active pursuit of growth—and wellness—a balanced, sustainable state. They share examples, such as financial fitness versus financial wellness, to illustrate how intentional focus can prepare individuals to navigate challenges while fostering resilience.
Patrick and Steffany also reflect on how past adversity, such as the pandemic, has underscored the importance of preparation and adaptability. Whether it’s mental resilience, financial stability, or spiritual grounding, they stress the need for self-awareness and readiness in a rapidly changing world. Practical advice, like maintaining emotional balance and preparing for uncertainties, ties the discussion to actionable steps.
The episode concludes with a call to “come alive” by embracing one’s values, facing adversity with courage, and striving for holistic fitness across life’s domains. As Steffany notes, it’s about standing firm in your truth amidst the chaos—a foundational step toward thriving in the year ahead.